July 3, 2010

Question:

Hello,

Is N's interest in me purely shallow? I suspect he likes the idea of me and the potential conquest more than anything. Better yet, are you able to tell what kind of relationship we would have IF I did give him a shot? I've always assumed he was the type of guy that was out for himself, too self-involved, and incapable of loving someone else. So I never took his interest seriously. Is it possible I judged him wrong? Just what kind of future could we have? Whenever I consider this my assumptions kick in and tell me it would be a rocky, tempestuous, short-lived affair devoid of depth or genuine affection.

Are my instincts correct?

Grace

Answer:

Grace,

You are both right and wrong. Mostly wrong *smile* N believes very deeply that you are the person he wants to be with. On a very deep level I would say. He feels you have misjudged him. He is a responsible person and yet there is an aspect to him that doesn't want to work hard, and I would describe it as being a bit spoiled. He can also appear to be very competitive, and at odds with wanting you seriously. It's because he has waited a long time for you to take him seriously and believe it or not, he is deeply hurt.

I also want to say that I believe this relationship is not only important to him, I think it has ties in another life you have had together. For the purposes of this reading, I won't go into that. I did want to mention it because while I understand why you would feel that way due to how he may behave, I also think you feel that way due to unconscious memories of a previous life. Those who know how I read will be surprised by that statement. I'm a very practical psychic and usually don't bring up very esoteric issues unless they are important to the reading at hand. I believe in this case they are.

Grace, maybe you can try to get to know N on a different level. I believe he is serious. He certainly knows he is. Maybe you can wipe the slate clean and try to approach him from another viewpoint

Love,
Adena

June 13, 2010

Question:

Adena,

I am in such an emotional relationship with a man I really love. We have had so many trials that we have made it through, but I know there is this other woman lurking from a break up four months ago. He says there is no communication with her, but this is not true. I know she wants him. He is making long term plans with me, which confuses me because he won't break ties with her. She knows he lives with me. Most women would have given up after 4 months. What is a telling C to keep her involved?

Answer:

Hi Car,

I think at this point whatever it was he had told her in the past, he is being much more realistic now. I think he is telling her with regret, that he simply can't do anything or offer her anything more. He is telling her now that he has a history with you, that he can't do both, that he isn't in a position to be who she needs him to be. I think he is telling her she will be alright without him, and while he knows he let her down, and is sad about it, it isn't happening now. I think he tells her or has told her that IF he could, he would have but that his life is with you. I really do believe he is starting to break that tie. Unfortunately C has her own feelings and believes A is her soul mate, she's devastated by this and feels its so unfair.

Car, I think A had a hard time in the beginning extricating himself. I still think its hard for him but I also believe he knows very well that his life is with you. Keep living your life with confidence. If he wanted to go, he'd go. He isn't. Eventually, if not very soon, it will become too painful for her. He really isn't offering her anything to hold on to except a dream that never happens. He does that to alleviate his own guilt, and maybe inside in some strange way he wished he could have done both. Been there for what she wanted to have and live with you but he's finally realizing he can't and he will just have to be the bad guy and leave. He kept trying to avoid it by staying in touch with her. It won't work. Your ties are too strong.

You know where I am if you need me!

Love,
Adena

June 6, 2010

Question:

Dear Adena,

There is one important question that I want to ask you: What are his views towards me after everything that happened? I called him Z. He was my mentor, 6 years older than me and helped me a lot during my thesis year. I have to be honest that he was the love of my life. Although we're not romantically involved, I do have affections towards him.

We had a big fight over two months ago and we have never talked to each other ever since. I sent him a birthday message and he didn't answer. Just tonight, I went to a faculty party. He was there but when he saw me through the window of a room, he avoided entering that room. When he finally enters he murmured hi to me without asking "How are you?" Seems like he forced himself into entering the room because he wanted to talk to my other friend, who I think he loves. I am not sure whether he still value our friendship, or about his views towards me in general.

I need this answer to make my decision before moving overseas in two days and never see him again. When I say decision, I mean whether I should erase the memory about him, or whether I should try to get our friendship back.Please understand that yes, I put him on a pedestal, but I want to know whether I should stop doing that. It all depends on what he thinks of me.
Please know that I am not asking you to decide for me, but I think I deserve an honest answer, and I'll take that answer into the consideration.

Thank you,
M

Answer:

M,

I can't tell you what he feels about you at this moment, and the reason is that it is more important to know that other than his feeling that he could easily charm you, his main feelings are to let this go. I do think that he felt there was a harmony between you, that essentially you both got along in a deep and important way. But he was concerned that you were not at the same place emotionally that he was, and he is more concerned with how a large group of people view him and how he relates to them then he is about what you feel. He didn't want the responsibility of your feelings, whatever they were and I'm not clear he knew what they were. I do know that he has chosen to withdraw, and does not feel that this relationship is the one he chooses to pursue. I am not asking about anyone else just you. He had decided to let it go.

M, as painful as this is, I'd like to tell you that we all have people who have played an important role such as his in your life. I had a professor who I adored and who I had a deep bond to. It was a very, very long time ago. I often wondered what would have happened had I done anything, and I never did see him again. There are certain people who come into our lives and forever change us indelibly. That is the beauty, not the sadness of life. We often think that what we have with someone will translate to a romantic situation, and sometimes that's not what is best for us. He gave you the best of himself! Trust me! Should you have received what you wanted, it would have ruined what you did get.

Take what he gave you. Nourish it, let yourself flourish. It wasn't a rejection on his part as much as his understanding that this was not what you needed to grow, and it wasn't what he wanted at this time in his life. Move on, remember him, and someday, when you're past feeling this way, look him up and say hello.

Love,
Adena

May 16, 2010

Question:

Hello,

I'd like to know what the real deal is between a certain person and myself. I don't know if my connection to this person is severed for good. I say that because things have not always been as they appeared with us. He carried a torch for me for a long time, however I'm not sure if that remains the case. He recently married someone else to spite me or more likely, to get over me. What I hope to understand is how he feels about me now, if he'd leave her for me, or if he has found happiness with her. His name is B. Her name is A.

Thanks,
S

Answer:

Hi S,

I agree that B's primary motivation was to get over you. I also believe he did it to try to sever the relationship or the situation with you for good. However, there are some very good qualities he shares with A and they work well together. He feels as if he is starting over with her. I don't believe he is ever going to love her the way he loved you. But he has enough feeling here to be completely open to allowing the marriage become enough to sustain him and allow him to finally leave behind the obsession he had with you. There's a lot of sadness and regret as well as relief that he has moved on. A lot of it as I've said is based on his feelings for you and while I do see he wants to really walk away, he will always be susceptible to you.

When I ask if he would leave A to go back to you, my answer is that you really are the one he loves and somewhere inside he hopes that one day, somehow you would wind up together again. It's a strange thing to marry someone else but hope to be with someone else but it's way more common than people think it is. That's how B feels. I believe he would see you, definitely but leaving A would be a much harder thing for him to do. I have to say that in the end he would not leave her for you. He would stay with her. I see a child around them and family and the fact that she really loves him and while it will never be the same with her, it will be strong enough to stay.

I am sorry to say S that I think it's best for you to leave this alone. He would see you, but he wouldn't leave for you. Not now, not for a long time, too long a time for you to do that without being deeply hurt. Years from now may be another chapter in your relationship with him but for now, it needs to stay this way. He has made up his mind, even though he would see you if you wanted him to. He would need to, but inside he would not allow himself to trust it, not at this time in his life.

Adena

May 2, 2010

Question:

Should I try to reconnect with Barney or am I opening up a can of worms? I definitely care about him but don't want to muck things up (for either of us). I'm afraid of stirring things up that may potentially be unsafe or not good for me.

Thanks,
Leesa

Answer:

Hi Leesa,

Thank you for asking this question the way you did. It makes the reading more specific to just what you need to hear. I asked the question exactly the way you did and here was the answer; that in the past while he had made you deeply happy, there was anger, disappointment, secrecy and he either came into your life and stirred it up and left, or he had the kind of personality that was biting, hurtful and difficult to deal with. Right now there is either distance between you, both geographically or you are afraid that you would be able to balance the myriad of things on any comfortable level. He is at the heart of this reading, not someone who has been financially or physically someone you can depend on. I am not looking at his circumstances or him at all right now, I am simply asking the question with the intent on finding out what you need to know. I would have to say that the information they are giving us about his circumstances probably means the situation is the same.

Your intent is to just start communication over with him. To really work on that. The outcome would be a truce of some sort, it certainly wouldn't be to stir anything up, but at the same time, there wouldn't be anything here to stir up. It seems as if there is no room for any kind of stress or responsibility nor would you or Barney want to pursue the other with any passion for right now. Looking at this reading, Leesa, I feel that your intention is to just communicate with him hoping because you had such a deep feeling of caring with him to start over, yet, the issues with Barney are still there and at this point in his life he is completely unable to give you anything. Should you contact him, it would not be explosive or stir up a hornets nest, but it wouldn't amount to much else at this point either.

None of this seems to be long term karmic information by the way. What I mean is, it is entirely situational and should you want to check in again to see if it would work at some other point in your lives, you could revisit it at that time. For now however, I'd leave it alone, there doesn't seem to be much to be gained for you by communicating.

Love,
Adena

April 18, 2010

Question:

I have talked to you before and you did answer but at the time it did not appear to be accurate information. I am trying again and I hope you pick my question and I am sorry for the harsh review I wrote you. I chose to believe what he told me.
I recently went back to my boyfriend who had broken up with me to go to an ex girlfriend. He wanted to go back with me and said it was over with her and still loved me and that she tricked him into leaving me.
We have been seeing each other now for two months a few times a week and I want to know if it will last and if it is over with this girl. He says they have no contact and he laughed at me when I relayed some of the information you gave me at that reading. I'm writing now because some of what he says just doesn't make sense due to certain things I have noticed recently. His name is (edited) her name is (edited) and my name is (edited) we live in (info edited ).

Answer:

Dear A.L

I remember this reading quite well. You didn't use my web site for the call, you used another forum where I used to do readings.

Unfortunately I am going to give you approximately the same answer I gave you during that reading. He is not seeing you exclusively. He sees her at least enough to keep her assured that the relationship they have is not threatened by anyone else. During the time you broke up with him (which I remember was more than two years that you were separated and, more time apart than you had originally gone out with him) he not only established a serious relationship with this girl but they have discussed marriage and children.

I do believe she is pushing for marriage and I do believe that he is inclined to go ahead with it. I can't be 100 percent sure that they have a child on the way but I do believe that is their next step. I believe (name edited) is feeling scared, nostalgic, and having second thoughts which is why he has contacted you and led you to believe that he is leaving her. He is in too deep to really leave her and I have to say that he does care about her enough to take the next step. As horrible as it seems I think he wants to know that you're still there in case he backed out of moving on with her.

I realize that you believe him. I realize that sometimes we can hold a torch for someone and believe in the face of reality that what they're telling us is true and that they love us but when I read him, I read someone who is going to get married, and either plan a child or have a child. What he has is the classic case of cold feet. Fear of responsibility and of ending a single life. I know this sounds very cut and dried with no in between but I need to tell you that this really is the way it is. I realize you won't believe me, and that you will ask him if this is true or not. I am not looking to see what he will say but if I go on what he said in the past, he will probably not tell you the truth and you will end up finding out in a more painful way.

It's been two years since you were together. He is not offering you an exclusive relationship. He sees you sporadically a few times a week and once he gets comfortable about the next phase of his life, he will disappear the way he did two years ago. I can understand you don't want to accept this, so, please, hold back your heart for now, ask to see him more often than he is offering and start to reinstate yourself back into family, friends, weekends, and see how he reacts to that.

I wish you all that you hope for.
Adena

April 4, 2010

Question:

Is P being deceptive with me?

Answer:

Hi V,

While I can'>t of course be 100 percent sure when answering a question like this, I can tell you that the answer I received does indicate that there is a deceptive situation going on with him. I get the surrounding information regarding it, and yes, I feel you're right about what you think is going on. I respect the way you asked the question, and I am answering in kind.

My thoughts are with you.
Adena